I am best friends with the block button and the read receipt. One of my shoulders is always cold.
I feel like it’s a self-preservation thing instead of a confidence thing, because when someone I don’t care about does something I don’t like I almost always immediately fling them to the depths of The Blocked. Ex: the first week I got a Twitter I blocked Chrissy Teigen. It felt good.
When someone I do care about does something (not small) that I don’t like I have to activate my logical checks and balances system and go down my Checklist To Keep People In My Life & Not Be Dramatic. Ex: I have been known to temporarily ground my best friends from my life. One of my friends kept repeatedly saying something I didn’t like and I asked him many times to stop and on the fourth time I didn’t talk to him or interact for four months. It felt fair to me. It was dramatic.
The checklist includes:
- How do I feel? How should I feel?
- What do I want to do? What should I do?
- What can I do? What are my options?
- What will I do?
Most of the time it’s always better to underreact. I can always ramp up the reaction later but honestly, it usually just makes me feel bad and I’m in the business of making myself feel great and not bad.
Count to ten, drink a glass of water, whatever it takes to not strike the match that ignites my fiery little heart.
Prattle Peach 