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more good things

Another list of really good things:

  • Sharpie fine point marker pens that let you write small and precisely and remind you of getting shitty Circle K coffee with your friend Chicago because it’s what we deserved
  • Putting plans into your calendar at the beginning of the month and knowing you have something to look forward to at the end of the month
  • Listening to someone talk and coming up with the perfect response that makes them feel heard and understood
  • Ultra-precisioned writing that leaves no doubts or questions
  • Hearing your mom talk about her day and knowing that she is smiling because it was good
  • Taking things one day at a time and doing your best each day, so at the end of the day you feel truly satisfied
  • Getting one minute of full uncertainty and pouring all of your hope into those 60 seconds and then getting what you hoped for
  • FMSP (Fat Man Starfish Position) – when you eat too much so you Just sprawl out like a starfish on a flat surface and let the tides of your tummy take you where you need to go
  • Knowing someone misses you as much as you miss them, and knowing you will see eachother again
  • Being proud of your friends for achieving their goals and reaching new stages in life
  • Picking out little baby clothes for your first pregnant friend even though you can’t believe she is cultivating a human being in her body, that you will be amazed by when it enters the world
  • Eating ice cold watermelon like you are four years old and not giving a single care about being sticky

the girl with one (1) cold shoulder

I am best friends with the block button and the read receipt. One of my shoulders is always cold.

I feel like it’s a self-preservation thing instead of a confidence thing, because when someone I don’t care about does something I don’t like I almost always immediately fling them to the depths of The Blocked. Ex: the first week I got a Twitter I blocked Chrissy Teigen. It felt good.

When someone I do care about does something (not small) that I don’t like I have to activate my logical checks and balances system and go down my Checklist To Keep People In My Life & Not Be Dramatic. Ex: I have been known to temporarily ground my best friends from my life. One of my friends kept repeatedly saying something I didn’t like and I asked him many times to stop and on the fourth time I didn’t talk to him or interact for four months. It felt fair to me. It was dramatic.

The checklist includes:

  • How do I feel? How should I feel?
  • What do I want to do? What should I do?
  • What can I do? What are my options?
  • What will I do?

Most of the time it’s always better to underreact. I can always ramp up the reaction later but honestly, it usually just makes me feel bad and I’m in the business of making myself feel great and not bad.

Count to ten, drink a glass of water, whatever it takes to not strike the match that ignites my fiery little heart.

freshly washed sheets

I can’t name many things better than laying in warm, freshly washed sheets, but I can think of a few that come pretty close.

Here’s a list of some of my favorite things from the past four days:

  • watching Howl’s Moving Castle (bonus if while in freshly washed sheets!)
  • when your dog leaves another member of your family to sit with you, anointing you the Animal Friend of the House
  • spending a day at the beach in perfect weather
  • putting cold aloe on the sunburns from said beach day
  • taking a post-beach nap
  • tie-dying shirts as gifts for friends and staining your fingers dark blue and purple for 72 hours
  • hanging up a big mirror on the wall of your bedroom that makes the room feel a lot brighter

I’ve had a really great Memorial Day weekend. My mind and heart feel very content. I spent a lot of quality time with my little brother, and I’m thankful that we have a good relationship.

I think this little break did a lot of good for me. I feel like I hit a reset button, and now I’m ready to jump back into work with more positivity than I’ve had in a while.

Little things to love that aren’t love

I’ve never had a valentine, so when Valentine’s Day comes up every year I don’t tend to think about being in love with somebody or wishing I had somebody I was in love with. Instead, I like to think about all the things I love and make a list.

  • getting complimented on your work
  • trying a new drink at a coffee shop
  • finding a new favorite author
  • getting to the last chapter of a book
  • listening to an entire album start to finish
  • cleaning your apartment before leaving on a trip and coming back to it
  • watching a vine/tiktok compilation on YouTube and every single one was funny
  • having an inside joke with a friend
  • learning how to cook something new
  • pets greeting you when you come home
  • when you can’t predict the end of a movie or tv show and get surprised
  • getting your hair cut and washed at the salon
  • finding the perfect new perfume
  • asking for help at a store and the sales clerk is knowledgeable and friendly
  • walking the two mile loop at a regional park
  • helping somebody without them knowing
  • hearing a good phone voice
  • singing happy birthday to someone
  • catching up with an old friend
  • getting tagged in a good meme
  • being right about someone
  • using a good pen
  • getting useful advice
  • a really, really good sneeze
  • rinsing off a face mask and patting your skin afterwards
  • going to the beach when it isn’t crowded
  • discovering a great new restaurant
  • waking up feeling rested before your alarm goes off
  • finding something you thought you lost or forgot you had
  • donating and clearing out clothes and old items
  • fixing something by yourself
  • putting something you’ve learned into practice
  • seeing results from your workout or diet plan
  • going to bed early or sleeping in
  • petting a cat’s tummy without it attacking you
  • picking the winning team or award nominee
  • sitting down next to someone while they play piano
  • feeding carrots to animals
  • lighting a candle on a rainy day
  • feeling the dip on a rollercoaster
  • hiking up to a high point and looking down
  • going to a place where the night sky is clear and you can see constellations

It’s not always about letting one person be your whole life, but it is always about you being one person for your whole life. You get one lifetime to soak all the things you love up, so I hope you do something on your little love list this week, no matter how big or small.